Adulting Sucks

Wednesday, November 4, 2015 43 Comments A+ a-


Yes it does. And nobody told me about it.

Nobody handed out manuals for Surviving Adulthood back in school. And the How to Become an Adult kit didn't come with foolproof instructions either. So I had to figure that out myself. When I turned 30, I paused and re-evaluated my life. Ten years into adulthood and what exactly have I done? Shouldn't I be grown up by now? I grit my teeth.

Back then, I was really excited to become an adult and have my freedom. I wanted the days to move forward to the time when I no longer have to seek parental consent each time I wanted to do something or go somewhere. And then one day, I just woke up being officially an adult only to realize that the only good thing that comes along with adulthood is that you don't have to lie anymore about your age being over 18 so you can have a booze. Other than that, adulthood wasn't exactly what I was expecting. You'd be more deprived of freedom even - a slave of your job or your lifestyle. And it also comes with this one-size-fits-all notion of how you should live your life: how you should act, who you should be, and what you should have. Ten years into adulthood and my life doesn't measure up. Not even up to par of what's acceptable to the eyes of the society.


Yes, I am an adult - a pseudo-adult for that matter. I'm old enough to drink, drive, vote, watch porn (and don't get judged for it), get married, have kids, and so on. Except, I don't really feel like an adult. I don't think I'd fit in to anything labeled "adult" or "grown up". Responsible, consistent, organized, independent, focused, and prim are perhaps the best words to associate to an adult and I wouldn't use any of them to describe me. Not even close.
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Adulting sucks. And I suck at it especially when I think about cavemen. I have definitely failed my Neanderthal ancestors big time. I'm sorry, gramps. Back in their era, a woman in her 20s could already be a full-fledged alpha female and could probably take down a moose and turn it into a stew; while I, on the other hand, couldn't even cook bacon without burning it. Don't judge me, I lived almost my entire life in Neverland where I never have to worry about bacons.

But more than just burnt bacons and instant noodles, the real horror of adulthood comes from taxes and finances, parenting, 9-5 jobs and loathsome bosses, laundry, bills that multiply uncontrollably, the thought of not being able to settle down, settling down, and pretty much every boring and overwhelmingly unpleasant responsibilities you can think of. I do not have the skills to juggle all those responsibilities gracefully, let alone take down a moose. All I can think of right now is cancel adulting and just wrap myself in blanket and become a burrito.
Yeah, I suck at being an adult. And I think I got it all figured out now that this adult thing is not going to work for me. Because each time I try to become a proper adult (yeah the real one), nothing really goes well. Yeah, sure I can do things any adults can do, and for a few days, I'd do well. Like...
But then distractions that could take my life away are inevitable.
My life lately.
Then what comes next is a sudden attack of panic. Where did the last two weeks go?! Nothing productive was ever done. My laundries pile up. And I turn into a panda - dark circles around the eyes sans the cuteness. I slack off even more knowing that I've actually doubled up the things to do. And for some reason, I would feel burned out for not doing anything.


Then guilt would start creeping in. Oh guilt, thou art such a heartless bitch. And I would feel worthless. So I try to become an adult again. And try not to fail as much as possible. And this time, it would already seem like a chore.

And I always fail. It seems like I wasn't really built for this.

This becomes an endless cycle of misery. And the next thing I know, I am slumped and stressed as can be. So at 30, after too many attempts trying to be a real and proper adult, I have given up adulting and have settled for something light and fun. I decided not to take life too seriously. This is because I suspect nobody really figured out what becoming an adult really means. Only, people pretended they have all their shit together. After all, I, too, have the rest of the world fooled into believing I'm actually doing a pretty good job being an adult who has it all figured out (whatever that it is). But really, I'd rather fail growing up and be happy about it than live miserably while trying to live how an adult should be.

Anyway, I've had enough adulting for today. And perhaps also tomorrow. And the day after tomorrow. And if anyone needs me, I built a fort, you can find me there. Say the magic word if you wish to enter. I'm watching Disney movies, so please bring popcorns. Or bacon.

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November 4, 2015 at 7:29 PM delete

Hahaha! Comment ko kay nalingaw ko ug karelate ko ani! Level up na kaayo imong blog sarj.

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November 4, 2015 at 9:01 PM delete

hahaha. nyc 1. good read ms sarah

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November 4, 2015 at 11:25 PM delete

Such a fun article to explain some bittersweet facts of adulthood ! I like adulthood minus all the chores and responsibilities that comes along !!!!!
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SummerDrizzle
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November 4, 2015 at 11:30 PM delete

I received my ITR docs a few weeks ago. Asked my mom to settle it for me. I'm 28. I guess, I would never be an adult too. LOL. This post is really funny. My favorite one so far. It's like you just looked into my life and wrote about it. LOL

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Nina Marshall
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November 4, 2015 at 11:32 PM delete

Good post. I think you are only as old as you feel. I frequently have the 'am I an adult now thoughts', yet when I talk to elders who are in their 40's they still say they don't feel like an adult!

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November 4, 2015 at 11:36 PM delete

Being an adult is hard, not easy. But, it is so lovely to be an adult now and have my own family and make decisions for my children. Yes, it is quite stressful and yes I do have to go to bed early and miss out on many fun things, but it is all worth it for me. I enjoy adulting very much

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November 4, 2015 at 11:46 PM delete

I loved this! What a great blog and it was so entertaining! Thank you for sharing. Here's a fun fact: we all suck at adulting. I'm writing blog posts every Sunday that follow the book, Adulting, step by step... It's been pretty fun and has helped me to really think about what each step is. I completely understand this though. Thank you.

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November 5, 2015 at 12:04 AM delete

Hahaha! This is so true! And funny! I think this is the only thing that made me laugh today. Nice read, by the way. Nakakagood vibes. Hahaha.

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Juliana Chow
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November 5, 2015 at 2:00 AM delete

Hahaha omg the drawings are SO CUTE. I have a habit of staying up late too blogging :) I use the excuse that I'm mentally in another time zone, so I'm most creative at night!! Great and cute post. Love the potato meme too!!

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Umber Phoenix
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November 5, 2015 at 2:12 AM delete

Isnt admiting your an adult like saying you dont belive in faries anymore? Who would want to harm tinkerbell :D

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November 5, 2015 at 3:23 AM delete

OMG that was funny and true lol!
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Huda Malik
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November 5, 2015 at 6:42 AM delete

haha nice article :D i hope you check my blog as well

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Sydnee Percy
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November 5, 2015 at 7:31 AM delete

I relate to this on so many levels its unbelievable! I definitely chuckled aloud a few times while reading this. Adulting is definitely NOT easy, nor a walk in the park. I'm 24 and I work with kids (teacher and other stuff) and I tell them that when I was their age I wanted to be grown up so bad, but I tell them it's honestly not worth it and don't rush it ahaha


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Sarah
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November 5, 2015 at 1:12 PM delete

Lagi. Naglevel up jud. Lingaw man gud magbutang2 ug doodles. Hitting two birds with one stone kumbaga ba. I get to write and draw at the same time. Hehe

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Sarah
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November 5, 2015 at 1:15 PM delete

Haha. When I got my ITR I just didn't care. I know I have paid my dues. I'm just not sure if the digits were right. Baka nga nalugi ako. But ayaw kong mastress eh. Haha.

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Sarah
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November 5, 2015 at 1:16 PM delete

Yeah. I really thought being 30 would make me feel different. It did not. I have yet to talk to people over 40 who don't feel like an adult. And maybe I'd feel better about that. Haha

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Sarah
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November 5, 2015 at 2:11 PM delete

That's good to hear. Happy to know I made someone laugh today. ^_^

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Sarah
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November 5, 2015 at 7:49 PM delete

Who wants chores and responsibilities? Haha. Thanks for dropping by! ^_^

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Sarah
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November 5, 2015 at 7:53 PM delete

Good for you you're enjoying it. Most of the time, I really don't feel like I'm an adult. So I really can't tell if I enjoyed being an adult. Haha. Thanks for dropping by!

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Sarah
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November 5, 2015 at 7:54 PM delete

You're welcome. And thank you, too.

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Sarah
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November 5, 2015 at 7:56 PM delete

Thank you! I think it's a long post, I might disappoint the readers if I don't put a potato in the end. Haha. :D

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Sarah
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November 5, 2015 at 7:57 PM delete

And by that, I don't think I'm ever going to be an adult. :D

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Sarah
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November 5, 2015 at 7:58 PM delete

Thank you, Jordie! :)

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Sarah
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November 5, 2015 at 7:58 PM delete

I love the dog, too. It's just like me. ^_^

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Sarah
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November 5, 2015 at 7:58 PM delete

Thank you! Sure I'll drop by your blog.

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Sarah
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November 5, 2015 at 7:59 PM delete

I'm glad to know that I actually made some smile or chuckle for this matter. ^_^

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Renz Pizzaro
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November 5, 2015 at 8:44 PM delete

Hahaha! Lingaw kaayo pagkasulat. Lingaw kaayo pagkadrawing. Lingaw jud kang bayhana ka.

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Sarah
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November 6, 2015 at 6:02 AM delete

Lingaw pud imong comment. Bwahaha

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Marie Bulatao
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November 6, 2015 at 9:51 AM delete

I am an adult and I still suck at it (by the way, ITR is very easy if you are an employee.you don't have to worry about it)

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November 6, 2015 at 5:02 PM delete

I'm not even in my 30's and I can so much relate on your post!! I haven't figured out my life yet and I'm pretty sure I'm not going to anytime soon. HAHA But I am enjoying how my life is slowly unfolding in my eyes :)

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tony greene
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November 6, 2015 at 6:31 PM delete

Thanks for the potato. It went well baked and full of sour cream and crispy burnt bacon.
Who's bacon ever comes out perfect?

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Sarah
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November 6, 2015 at 10:53 PM delete

I really didn't worry about my ITR, or perhaps I'd rather say I really didn't care about that. Good to know there are a lot of us who suck at being adults. I feel relieved. Haha.

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Sarah
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November 6, 2015 at 10:53 PM delete

I don't think you'll ever figure it out, sweetie. No one ever did. Hehe. Yes, just enjoy life. And thanks for dropping by! ^_^

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Sarah
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November 6, 2015 at 10:54 PM delete

Now I want that potato with sour cream, and yes, crispy burnt bacon pretty please. :3

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November 7, 2015 at 1:46 AM delete

I love this post! It's so humorous and I can completely relate to every single part of it! It's like you transmitted my thoughts in much wittier, more visually appealing way!

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Sarah
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November 7, 2015 at 9:33 AM delete

Thank you, Karina! ^_^ I would say a lot of people can relate to this.

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Michi
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November 11, 2015 at 8:38 AM delete

When I hit 30, I don't really feel old but it is also the time that I reflect and check the things that I have accomplished and need to accomplish before I turn to 40. There is no pressure I just enjoy and live my life the way I want it.

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Cym Marzan
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November 11, 2015 at 5:58 PM delete

I feel like that on some days. I wish I could let go because I fail at adulting. But, there's no pause button for that. The kids need to eat 3 times a day, plus 2 snacktimes. They need to do their homework. Maybe I could beg off with sickness, but chores would pile up. Huhu!

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Chris Bel
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November 30, 2015 at 4:06 PM delete

Wow you got me here. Have we met before? It's like you know me so much you have written this shiznit about me. I hope I don't see another potato on your other posts. I think I have so much potatoeness already. LOL

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