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Tuesday, August 18, 2015

The Perils of Living in the Age of Social Media

Funny how we allow social media to open our lives to public scrutiny. We announce just every effin' thing we do. We show them what we eat, what we wore, where we went, what we feel. Kulang na lang umabot sa ganito: 
We tell the whole world about our upset stomach, a throbbing headache, or a snotty runny nose. We rant pretty much about anything from crowded streets to long queues to heavy traffic to the smelly armpits of the person sitting next to us on the way home. I've heard in a jeepney once, "They just broke up." "What? How'd you know?" "Saw it on Facebook." Don't you think it's kind of disturbing when everyone knows the score when couples fight over Facebook? And funny how we hate it so much when we get an unsolicited advice after airing our dirty laundry online. (Do I sound like a hater yet?)

We use Facebook, or other social media for that matter, to express ourselves, our experiences, what we're watching, what we're listening to, pretty much everything going through our lives however mundane they may be - as if anybody cares. We use social media to fish for attention by posting provocative boobtastic selfies and we validate our worth by the number of likes we get. Yes, there's a big difference between trying to inspire and just fishing for compliments. And unfortunately, there are a lot of obnoxious overshares we wish to un-see, un-read, or un-know. Sometimes the "too much information" thing clearly doesn't exist in our lives.

These things are happening because, truth be told, we simply seek to be seen. The internet is warm and comforting that it wholly embraces our narcissism and our need to belong. I am not saying that it is wrong. Sharing is fun, but oversharing is pathetic. And it doesn't require neurons to do one. I mean, social media allows us to overshare and not even think about it. I don't see the need to keep the public be constantly informed about what we ate for lunch and it is not enriching anybody in any way anyway.

I was once told that I blog, and it's pretty much the same thing. Yes, that's true. This blog serves as my crappy online diary. And I can share whatever the crap I want to share with you. But the thing is, writing a blog has its own struggles. Like the struggle of putting your thoughts carefully. It demands more time and thought. Yes, blogging requires deep, refined, and well-thought opinions that would oftentimes lead to insightful blog posts rather than the shallow real time updates on what one is doing at the moment.

I am not saying that I am a better person just because I blog and I don't share my sad-ass-story-life on Facebook. Blogging allows me to think about what I am about to post - which allows me to refrain from postings things that aren't supposed to be shared. I have once posted a rant (about a person) on Facebook and it dragged me right into the hot pits of internet drama, and I've regretted that whole ordeal. What I'm trying to say is that we should learn to put a little restraint over the things we share over social media, shouldn't we? People are probably going to hate me for this. But come on, just put your clothes back on and leave something for people to wonder about your life. :)

Need to vent? Call someone. Or just get a goddamn notebook.

50 comments:

  1. Hahaha! Nice one sar! Nakatawa ko ani kay tinuod kaayo! Daghan OA sa kalibutan pati pagtoothbrush kay ipost pa jud!

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  2. First comment ko! Weeee... No, I won't hate you for this (k kaila jud ta) ahahaha... Nice blog, sad to say, sometimes I'm like that, desperate to get likes maskin unsa na lng na trip pero di na karun k lisod madamay ang public figure (neseye) u know who I mean pero narealize nko na ako may nauna ahaha... Well, sama sa giingon ni Ryan Rems, hwag kang matakot magkamali kasi pede ka namang magsisi sa huli alright woooh!

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    1. Thanks for dropping by. Lisud jud maguba ang public figure mao na careful sa ginapost. Pero kinsa ni? Hehe :)

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    2. Dan! Took me a while to figure out. Ang (neseye) diay ang hint. Haha.

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  3. You really have to filter what you share most of the time. These days people are really unaware of the impact of social media in their lives and they rarely care about what they post.

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    1. Exactly. It's okay to share, just don't overdo it. :)

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  4. this is on the spot. you are right, those people who OVERshare i think have self-esteem issues. facebook and instagram make it easy for narcissists to get the attention they crave. i also understand those who post pictures of food, if and only if, it is meant for recommendation, review, or something like that. but i don't get it why people have to post food meals just for the sake of posting it. it is not even enticing to look sometimes. other OVERshares that makes me icky are those sharing pictures of coffins in the wake of a departed loved one. what's with that?

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    1. We really can't tell what's going on deep inside them why people overshare.

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  5. I feel you, sharing is not bad but oversharing in social media is not good for the followers. I have FB friend who shares everything on FB so I don't need to ask his/her "how are you?" because I know everything about his/her life through his/her FB status.

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    1. Yes, oversharing is really not good. People should learn when to draw a line.

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  6. i'm glad i started following this blog. the internet needs more of this.

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  7. You won the internet today! What you said is true. I know a friend who posts every check-ins. I think most of them are just bragging. Don't you think?

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    1. I did? Haha. Yes, some are actually sort of humblebragging. :)

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  8. what's the big deal? it's on their wall they post on facebook anyways not yours.

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    1. Hello! :) Yes, they do post on their walls. But what the world don't understand is that once they posted on THEIR OWN WALL, that is already for the public (or their circle of friends) to see. And there are those times when you would inadvertently read something that can actually bring your whole vibe down. Unfriending then defeats the purpose of facebook. It is a networking site, where you can connect with friends. It is not a place to vent out drama that's supposed to be left to your own affairs alone.

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  9. isang malaking check! nice post sar. daghan napud igo ani ba.

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  10. Hahaha! I can relate to this since some of my facebook friends, if not the most, are like news anchor of their own lives, announcing to the universe whatever they're up to as the privacy is set to "public". Though Facebook has been infested by thousands or even millions of attention seeker, it was never too late to save a big portion of humanity from getting retarded, and so I vote for "dislike" button implementation on Facebook. LOL! That would rude, never mind.

    Well, I'm looking for a nice blog to read through random search and I'm glad I found yours. Just one question, taga asa ka? HAHAHAHA!

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    1. Thank you! This comment made my day. :) Taga Davao diay ko. :)

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  11. Simple people these days nancocollect ng mga likes. They will do everything para mapansin gaya ng pabebe girls. hahah

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  12. The truth is if you are mature and responsible you will have restraint. If you do not have the maturity and your sick in the head, then all hell breaks loose. But I guess freedom of expression made this possible and for that I say it is their right, but not until they affect others.

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  13. It is true that people have a tendency to overshare in social media. We must know when to stop for our own good.

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  14. I haven't succumbed to letting everyone know what I'm doing thru posts on social media. Heck, I don't even post photos of my kids. People even don't know I have them already since they're not visible online haha. They're like "But you don't have kids!" and when I ask them why "Because you've never posted their pictures on Facebook!" so because of that they don't exist? Haha!

    I filter what I share mostly, since I'm a very private person.

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  15. I guess we have to watch what we write as people can really be judgmental too in social media and we don't need to broadcast everything.

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  16. Normal na yan sa FB.. But not me, I still keep my private life/affair secret.

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  17. I just don't have time to post things like the one above. I mostly post anything that will market my blog, photos, and some check ins. People should limit their time on FB.

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  18. some of my friends post those kinds of status. sometimes i unfollow them. kaya minsan magtataka sila nakita mo ba yung pinost ko? sasabihin ko na lang hindi pa ako nagbubukas ng account eh hehe.

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  19. Ha! I have known a lot na ganyan.. As in ayaw mag-asawa e-post sa facebook tapos may mag-aadvice pa.. kaloka! Hindi man lang naiisip na sobrang dami makakabasa... Anyway, that's their lives kaya hayaan na lang natin sila. As long as we are not like them.

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  20. Ako, madalas ako mag-post about sa "kulangot" like "Ang hirap pala mangulangot sa bus." Pero, actually, may meaning naman yung "kulangot" na term para sa akin. Hindi nga lang siguro magegets ng iba. Pero sure ako, dun sa mga nagpost na ng ganyan na totoong ginagawa nila e, ewan ko nga ba. Bakit ba proud pa sila.

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  21. Definitely agree with you on this. Some people keep their lives as an open book and they take it badly when people start criticizing them for the smallest things. What do they actually expect? They opened themselves up to public. Unsolicited advice and comments are surely going to be there.

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  22. Oversharing turns me off too.. I will unsubscribe from those feeds if that occurs.

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  23. Think first before click sometimes there are things na we must not share in social media. Hindi lahat i share :-)

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  24. I agree, oversharing over social media is eminent nowadays. Sharing is not bad as long as you know the limitations. Oversharing makes our life vulnerable. The rants and vent outs are all negative and will never do any good on us.

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  25. I used to be guilty in sharing too much, this was when I was younger and social media was fairly new. Now I agree that there are some parts of your life that doesn't need to be shared thus the abbreviation TMI :)

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  26. Really true! There are things that you should keep to yourself. Things that other people shouldn't know about you and your life.

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  27. Oversharing is unhealthy. Kaya nga sometimes, I'd rather delete my post at baka may mag unfollow bigla sakin. haha.

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  28. Some people share TMI which is not healthy.

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  29. You know what? This post is worth-sharing! Hahaha. Real talk kaayo! Pwede man kaha ako ni ishare? Haha.

    Alyssa of www.alyssanity.com

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  30. I got your point and I definitely agree. There are things we have to keep to ourselves only to avoid bigger problem. It's nice to have social medias where we could let the world what and how we feel but we have to think carefully first before we post. Most of the times, I share positive things and if I do share negative sentiments, I really try to be careful with my choice of words. :)

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  31. OMG! We have the same layout hihih :P :P :P

    But this post has a good point. Grabe. Every time na may gagawin post tlaga. Tsk!

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  32. Oh dear, we share the same sentiment. Some people flood fb with non-sense posts, even their selfies 5x a day as if they're gonna die without showing the world their faces from sun up to sun down. With caption pa na "I woke up like this" but kuntodo makeup with mascara pa yan ha? Even when withdrawing from ATMs and when shopping at S&R, magpapa-picture pa talaga? Para ano?

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  33. I love social media, it help inform on whats the latest, and some people really post very relevant when it comes to freebies and deals, BUT when it comes to oversharing- It just not good and healthy. Kakaloka pati tumatae nag facebook hehehehe. Thanks for sharing Sis, its funny! and I have to agree with you. Oversharing is not healthy.:)
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  34. very on point, . Most people kasi kahit super private na talagang ipopost pa. How i deal with them...UNFOLLOW!

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  35. There are times I want to rant and post it on FB but I have to think first. Baka mamaya ma-bash naman ako once I made a negative comment or post.
    That's why I think before I click.

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  36. I hear you! Social media may be a discovery portal but it does not mean that we would like to know when you last went to the toilet! Some things are best left unshared. I talk about a lot of personal issues on my blog but I do it to raise awareness and a lot of thought, time and effort goes into constructing my posts.
    http://www.fadedspring.co.uk

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  37. Some people -- actually a lot-- tend to overshare on facebook. I hope people would really stop doing this.

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  38. What I really hate is "vaguebooking". Ypu know, when someone says something like "I am so angry, how could he?" and people ask "what?" and they answer "I don't want to talk about it". Well, why even mention it then?!

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  39. damn. very well said. :D

    thefoxylen.blogspot.com

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